You need to stop trying so hard to control things. I suspect you are a person who likes to control things and I think life will run much smoother if you just live it, try to enjoy the people you are with when you are with them, take in the positive times and then if things go negative, smile and go take a break...
Well.... my life.... things are always easier on paper than living through them. My dog died recently. It's the first dog I ever owned and both my children and I have been very sad about losing her. My husband never really liked this dog so he hasn't been too affected. He thinks it's kind of silly that I cry over the dog sometimes. Mostly at night when I think about what a great companion she was and how she'd always be there next to my side of the bed when I woke up in the morning. I'd always get down on the floor every morning and hug her, talk to her, play with her... and sometimes brush her teeth! Oh well...
Unfortunately my marriage isn't as good as it could be right now. Things have been swept "under the rug" and there's issues that really need to be talked about, but we've both gone into avoidance again. He's upset about some things and I'm just not sure how to get him to talk. We're very nice to each other and I try to be positive, but he just isn't comfortable talking to me and that's really hard. I know if we could just talk to each other things might be a lot better. And ever since I tried to manipulate him into talking about OW he seems to want very little to do with me. He's friendly and nice, but distant. I just wish I could change that.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
