It's very possible that you can turn her bitterness around. People who are depressed can be uplifted by optimistic people. But it is also very easy for it to happen the other way. So just don't let her bring you down to her level. You don't want to get stuck in the mud.
I still think you need to figure something else out to say or do when she acts like this. What did you USED to do? Did you used to walk away and ignore it? If so, we really need to think of something different for you. Nothing hateful or mean. but something that shows that you are a man standing up for yourself and are competent and she needs to keep her mouth shut! I'm going to Wichita to visit family, and to do some Mona Vie business.
What if you had a calendar and anytime she griped at you, you could put a checkmark on that day. Eventually she'll ask what your doing and you can say, "I'm just seeing if I can get thru one day without receiving a complaint about what I'm doing or not doing". That's probably a really bad idea, but it came to mind first. probably better would be to really acknowledge the good things she says. Or maybe say. "oh, are you wanting to move back?"
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
