Don't thank me. Re-reading my post I think I was a bit cruel....
On reflection, it seems that the DB thing to do would be to continue to act "as if" everything was fine. Appreciate whatever connection you can get, and don't push for hugs & kisses.
Focus your energy on having nice family times with your children, including your wife whenever possible. Remind her with actions and activities (but not words) of what she is walking away from.
