W asked me to help her in moving her new couch and I gladly accepted. I was to pick her and the son up first and then go and get it. I took it upon myself to get the couch and showed up at her place with it, she was pretty thrilled. She then asked if I would mine staying and putting some things together, hanging pictures and etc… It tears my heart out to help my W leave but her attitude is really changing.
I spent the night putting things together and she made me a PBJ sandwich, which was nice. Then this really blew my mind, I had to run and buy a few wall hangers and she called why I was out. She asked if I would pick up some beer, which I did. I got back and put it in her fridge, didn’t say much. Well 2 minutes later I’m getting taped on the shoulder, and here you go. Well I thought it was a test at first, and trying to work on that I declined. She insisted and said it wasn’t a big deal. We split a 6 pack laughed at some pretty good times.
We ended the night watching the end of chocolate (but say it in French), and when I said goodnight, I started to walk out and she grabbed my hand and gave me a hug. I also started the GAL tactic, and that might have helped also. I asked for a change in the schedule this weekend so that I could have Saturday night free. She asked what for and I said just a social gathering. Seemed to sort of piss her off, but I guess that is part of the reaction I’m looking for, peak her interest a little.
She still is talking hell bent on its over and I just ignore, but she didn’t use the D word at all last night, it is now “our separation.” I started to list and organize my goals and plans, and last night, I meet almost all of them. 2 nonsexual touches, 3 compliments for the night, no R talk (failed, but not on my behalf), no arguments (most proud of that).
