My marriage is hopeless V

[RedHeadWife]

I think you are justified in deciding not to see your W's C anymore. What came to my mind is maybe this would be another avenue to sit down & discuss things w/ your W. Sit her down and tell her WHY you don't want to go anymore and tell her you "understand" that she felt you were abusive/neglectful or whatever the words were, however, you don't necessarily see things the same way and are trying to show her (Wife) that you are willing to make changes and make your M a better one for not just her, but for you and your entire family.