How does one stop fixating on the OW and move on?

[theoden]

Saffie,

You are welcome.

Let's speak in purely positive terms:

This affair is a gift.

It's a gift to you to help you really re-consider your relationship to prescription medication.

It's a gift to you to encourage you to address your depression more vigrouously.

It's a gift to you to help you realize that you may have lost yourself over the years.

It's a gift to you to help you start living your call to adventure.

It's a gift to your marriage, in that it will help you both correct an unhealthy dynamic that led to this affair.

Don't squander the gift and return to your old way of being -- a way that has proven itself shaky.

--Theoden

[tyler]

Saffie,

You are welcome.

Let's speak in purely positive terms:

This affair is a gift.

It's a gift to you to help you really re-consider your relationship to prescription medication.

It's a gift to you to encourage you to address your depression more vigrouously.

It's a gift to you to help you realize that you may have lost yourself over the years.

It's a gift to you to help you start living your call to adventure.

It's a gift to your marriage, in that it will help you both correct an unhealthy dynamic that led to this affair.

Don't squander the gift and return to your old way of being -- a way that has proven itself shaky.

--Theoden

Theo,
You're an inspiration. I know our recent phone conversation with me in crisis mode helped me through.

Saffie, you're in such great hands here. All I can add is big hugs.

[runningoutoftime]

Saffie,
Sometimes people just need time and space. What seems big and insurrmountable will look much smaller at a later time. Just live your life and try to be positive. Life is short.