I believe that our S's only look back at other previous R's they have had when for some reason they feel that the one they have is not satisfying their needs for whatever reason. I have someone who I was really close to from the age of 8. My parents really liked him and beleived that one day we would get married. Although we went to different university's we would meet up regularly and would even talk about marriage at some time in the future. When this guy received the invite to the wedding to my H he went to visit my mum and couldn't believe that I was marrying someone else. In bad times I have thought about this guy loads and wondered what life would have been like with him. However, deep down i KNOW that we were not suited. Both of us could be hot headed and ours would have been a stormy relationship. His mother still meets up with mine sometimes and she always talks down his wife and hankers after what would have been if we got together. I KNOW though that I married the right man for me and even though he went off and had an affair he is still the right man for me.
I guess what I am trying to say is that the first love is something that is hard to compete with when times are bad, as they reside in a fantasy world. Put them in the real world and ther rarely measure up to what you can offer. Keep the faith - your reality is better than his can ever be.
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
