I've not posted to you before, but have followed your thread for a long time, and really admire your journey. This just jumped out at me; hope you don't mind my $.02.
I would agree with you that as far as you are concerned, who cares what the adults think/say...but those comments all too often filter down to neighbors' kids, and then in the 'out of the mouths of babes' way may well come back on to your kids. Do I remember correctly that you mentioned something along those lines recently? The most innocent parties in all of this are your kids; doing everything you can to spare them extra stress or sadness about your situation at this point might well be worth missing the bonfire.
