Need Veteran Piecer's Advice - desperately!!!

[Heartbroken]

Hello Lovely Olive- thanks for your kind words!

To all:

Saw IC last night and she said to have him move back and not into the basement - she felt that was me punishing him.... She feels if we are going to reconnect we have a better chance with him at home. So he takes the kids to Chicago -they fly to CA to be with my ILs for three weeks. He will come home Sat. when he gets back from Chicago. This will allow H and I to figure us out finally. I don't want to tell the kids until after they get back - want to feel more sure about us before dragging them back into this once again...

H and I went roller blading last night - he found an awesome park with a paved 8 mile track - and only one hill big enough to scare me. We had a great work out and an awesome time together. He says he is done with OW and he agrees with my boundary of ZERO contact and to be honest with anything she attempts. Which already has started -- this morning he came to get the kids and let me know that she TM him last night and called when he did not respond she left a msg stating she was not doing well - so much for her "Don't ever contact me again". H did not talk to her and she again TM this AM and left two phone messages as well. At some point she will have to stop or I will take care of her myself. I am so angry at her (for the first time - you need to remember we were friends first for over FIVE years - she sent me an email apologizing for wrecking our friendship and then starts up again with H???? WTF? She is desperate right now and I need to just let her hang herself - but I am so PISSED off at her - WOW!) H swears he will not contact her and he is being honest so far. I just hope he has the balls to let her go completely. I asked him this AM if he still 'loves' her and he said NO - he is sure of it. He cannot tell me ILY yet but it will come.

So I am still guarded but hopeful once again. I do want him home though - maybe then OW will see he is done once and for all!

This time is different - I am in much more control and I am holding a lot more cards than I have since last August. The tide has shifted!!

Thanks for reading my rambling! Have a great Tuesday!

HB