Em...some thoughts. I try to avoid putting my sitch on other's threads, but, sometimes it helps to know that others are going thru the same thing. Like you, my house will be on the line if my W splits. We built it together...I planted trees on it..for her and for me...it's my (OUR) home. As much as it hurts, it's just a house and you will survive.
Next, again, there is little that you can do to stop the D but a lot you can do to push it forward:
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I finally gave in.... I told her it was hard hearing how great and to plan everything is working out for you. It is not that I do not want 5D to adjust, that is good. But as things are working out for you, I am struggling with how do I take care of our girls, can I afford this house. The only thing that I wanted out of this was to be able to hang onto this house, so when I had our DD's they atleast had their home. I really do not know after I buy you out and start paying CS if I can afford it....
Avoid these comments for now..if you can. Think.....DON'T do the 'woe is me' shtick with her. Go back to the 'attractive' .pdf and your N.U.T.S. book...discuss these problems with men. Financial facts only. Perhaps, in the quote above, what might have sounded better would be, "I am not looking forward to having the kids divided between two homes, but, I am happy that they are comfortable with their new church. With luck, I will have additional help soon so that...etc....
Originally Posted By: N.U.T.S.
I take my problems to men. I am a risk taker. I replace doubt with acts of faith.I do whatever it takes to keep my family in our home
What was the reason for the feeling bad for the kids liking the church? What 'little boy' thing brought on those feelings? Think....process this now to avoid future issues.
I'm no expert Em...I am still awash in my own floodwaters, but, I am just noting some things. Finally, since I am not out of the woods and...in some ways....struggling thru the same issues, check out these links:
2) If you need someone for a day or two, check your local area...listings and sometimes a free post/ad: Craig's List
Stay tuff. Strength and honor. Frank
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
