Fade To Black

[stillme]

Hey, Dave. Very good stuff, and I think you know you're in a good place. "You" being you-yourself, as well as "you" being your R w/W. Know what I loved the most about your post, tho? Did you hear yourself?

She is <snip> not at all happy with herself.

So, W is regretting the "not-forever" part (still thinking about that is HUGE, I think), still blaming you for taking her for granted (Has she ever taken any responsibility for the failure of the M herself?), hurting & not happy -- That's alot of emotions to handle all at once & I cannot help but think she's got to - at some point - consider that SHE'S in control of her own emotions & happiness.

Again (I've brought it up before, & you've said it hasn't been mentioned in a long time), I think W might be open to a little C -- Couch it as it's for both of you to get over each other and on w/your lives in the best way you can for the kids, get the C'r to ask W to help you see how you've failed in the M & how you do it better in your future R's [w/whoever]. . . Whatever, but I think if W starts TALKING (uh, and not to an OM but to someone TRAINED to help her work THRU stuff & not cop out to it), it - coupled w/your New You, and the Better R you both have at this point - will be very powerful. Don'tcha think?