OM/PA, MLC and the hits keep coming............Pt2

[andyv]

Hey WAW,

My W has been preparing divorce papers since Feb, but I have not been served any. I think she will wait until Oct (12 months separation) before serving me, I don't know for sure.

I have just started to date, as W has never given me any reason to think she want's to get back into the R. I don't know how she feels (whether she knows I am dating women and not just going out with my mates), she is without emotion (which makes me think that there is no hope of reconciling).

Deep down inside, I don't think she will return, as her life is so different now, and she seems to be enjoying it. Also, she is so stubborn, that she would rather go full steam ahead with her course rather than lose face.

I read other peoples sitches, and see the anger that their W's show to them, which means that there is still feelings there. My W is an ice queen, and shows nothing. When we were together, she was the most jealous person alive, but not anymore.

Who knows what they are thinking and what they are doing. All I know is that I am much happier now, and there is no worse case scenerio for me as I have projected every possible outcome. And the dating helps me validate my own self worth, and that there will be a positive outcome, regardless.

Also, my W told me that she is working on making a R with OM. She is spending all her free time with him, staying overnight, organising a week away over school holidays to go away with him, etc etc. This would have killed me and sent me in a jealous rage a few months ago. But It doesn't worry me now that I have detached, and am GALing.

Everyone is different. It is up to you whether you think that dating would help you "pass the time" and whether it will improve your PMA, which in turn will make you more attractive to your W. I am no expert, but I feel better than I have felt in a long time.