Pretty Much Done

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Well, in theory, we have the "drafting" review meeting Thursday to review the legal documents for the D. A number of the final numbers are not agreed upon, so I don't know how far we will get on that. But the other meeting occuring Thursday is us signing her home equity loan application so I can get my equity from her. After that I will quickly (we are assuming by August 1) be moving out of the house.

To that end we had a meeting with a family counselor tonight to get ready for the expected kid trauma. It was our second meeting with her. In this one I was accused of tapping the phones in the house, and having an "inappropriate" relationship with my daughter. She means co-dependent, which is baloney. W even said she is paranoid about what I might try to do next. I pointed out that she is in fact paranoid and that I can't stop doing what I'm not doing in the first place.

It's funny because W claims all these wild things I'm doing but then says how well things are going with the kids and our friends about the D. Like no one is shunning us because we are getting D, like they did to W when her mom and dad D-ed. So, I think the C is smart enough to figure it out. But, in the end, I don't really care what the C thinks. W can go off in her fantasyland and as long as the kids aren't impacted, I don't care.

So I'm two meetings away from the thing being sent to court. I better get that mandatory parenting class done.

What do I think? I said to my C that I wish W was willing to work on the M. He said something very profound. That if she was willing to work on it, she wouldn't be the same person she is, and she might be someone I wouldn't even like. That impacted me. I can't make her be someone she isn't, someone who will fight to save a M. I might as well wish she was a supermodel: she's never going to be that either. Interesting.