You are doing the right thing. He needs to know you aren't there to recreate your role of 'meek, passive wife' ever again. You are trained for a new role. One that is much better.
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Thank you, Frank. But for now, his is a solo act and I'm just background noise.
All in due course, though. All in due course.
I appreciate your opinion.
Especially when you're NOT dropping in to bust my chops .
Before things change HERE, in our world, they often have to be changed in the spirit realm. There is scripture to back that up that says we are to bind the things on earth that we can bind (examples are our own willful sins, etc..) and He will bind the things in Heaven.
To believe what I am saying you'd have to believe what I believe and that is that a good number of marriages that are failing here are failing because in some way, shape or form, the enemy has gotten a stronghold in our lives. Some of the more blatant examples would be adultery and addiction. Some not so visible (at first) examples would be unforgiveness, selfishness, pride. No matter the means, the enemy has one spouse or the other, or both, in his hand and things are going just as he wants; the family is being destroyed from within (that is, by one of it's own members) and his role in it all is hardly even considered by most people.
For a true believer though, we are told about his devices and strategies and he works just as actively today as he did in bible times. His avenues have just changed to adapt to the times.
When a spouse decides to stand, he or she has now disrupted the smooth flow of his plan to destroy the family. He now is dealing with a person who is (hopefully) looking HONESTLY at their role in the marital problems and starting to change their actions, behaviors and attitudes. Now he getting pissed because that person has even dared to begin to pray. Well, God hears all our prayers. Even the worst among us. If it were not true, none of us could ever BE saved. So God most certainly hears us all and prayers of faith that is being grown MOVE GOD. When God starts moving in a person's heart, His love then extends outward through their hands. You can rest assured that if you are praying fervently and submitting yourself to God, the enemy is going to raise the roof.
So yes, things WILL get worse if one has started to pray. Even if all that person has done so far is catch God's ear, the enemy DOES NOT want them EVER to become strong enough to start moving the mountain, so all of hell may now appear to break loose.
In these sitches, when a person has begun to pray and things seem to go from bad to worse, it grows my faith.
After all, if you weren't threatening his reign in your household, why would the enemy kick up such a fuss?
So I say if you're praying and things get worse, just pray louder because it's working.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
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