Hey All! I'm in a friggin' GREAT mood today. Just a beautiful day out, dropped the kids at camp, blasted some music on my way in, tomorrow is the 4th and I'm off work for a week. Life is good! Happy, happy, joy, joy.
My one problem is...I don't think going to the bonfires is a good idea. I've been thinking about it and I will most certainly run into someone I know there and the neighborhood is already snickering up a storm...don't really need the whole neighborhood thinking that we're getting a D because I'm having an A. May have to see if we can do something else instead.
Nope - staying in the neighborhood. My new place is about a mile from the one we're selling. Her's too. So I will continue to see these people, my kids will be at school with their kids, etc. Should it matter what they think...probably not...but just not sure I want to open myself up to that...at least not yet.
I've not posted to you before, but have followed your thread for a long time, and really admire your journey. This just jumped out at me; hope you don't mind my $.02.
I would agree with you that as far as you are concerned, who cares what the adults think/say...but those comments all too often filter down to neighbors' kids, and then in the 'out of the mouths of babes' way may well come back on to your kids. Do I remember correctly that you mentioned something along those lines recently? The most innocent parties in all of this are your kids; doing everything you can to spare them extra stress or sadness about your situation at this point might well be worth missing the bonfire.
I understand the neighborhood dilemma. Ran into my old next door neighbor Frank the other day at Home Depot. We use to drink beer, joke and just talk about anything in our garages. Nothing was out of bounds. Now, the only conversation we could muster for our 10 minute encounter was about caulk, paint and drywall screws. He thanked me for the stbx lending him my drill, so I guess I'm still good for something in the neighborhood.
Really awkward anymore when I see the neighbors, her family and I have no clue what the STBX is telling them.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
Thanks L! For following along and the advice. That is exactly right. There have been two incidents where S7 has had other kids ask if we were getting a D. Last thing I need is for some kid to overhear his parents saying they saw me with someone, etc, etc and that getting to my kids. REALLY not worth it. Even though I don't feel like I'm doing anything wrong...I need to be careful because of the affect it could have on my kids.
