I just stopped by and was reading through your threads. Kids are screaming in the background over a Webkinz or something, so my concentration's not all it could be.
I guess I'm trying to get an idea of the time frame of your situation. Did it start a month ago with W set on a D? If so, you've come a long way with her. She had the wedding albums out? Your head wasn't cut out of any of the photos? VERY good sign. Course, I can't really make a truly informed judgment here until I know what KIND of swimming suit she bought you. A Speedo? something suitable for your fatherly dignity? Large, splashy, Hawaiian hibiscus on a Day-Glo orange background? Classic black and down to the knees?
It's interesting that she's doing your laundry: and that, also, is a very good sign. Either she's very attached to your laundry, and can't bear to have it washed improperly--which is very unlikely, unless she's of German descent, in which case it's TOTALLY likely--or she is offering a gift of service. Sometimes people offer the gifts that they themselves most prize.
You probably already help her out, in return. Do you dare at this point to offer signs of affection? You don't want to rock the boat, because you seem to be doing everything right. But I was just wondering how much and how intimately you talk, and how this might have changed from the beginning of the sitch?
