The change in her mood has co-incided with me going out more, and dating. It is just really nice to be able to go out and have fun with someone other than your mates. And do the things that you enjoyed (as a couple), like dinners, movies, coffee etc, and great conversation.
But you really do have to be careful. If you really want to get your R back with your W, the last thing you want is to connect emotionally to someone else, and possibly having that progress into something serious.
AndyV,
I wanted to know if you waited to get served papers before dating? I really want to start meeting nice women but not when I'm currently married. That would put me in the same category as my W. You are doing exactly what you need to Andyv, GALing and dating would make your mate see what she is missing and understand the grass isn't always greener and she could loose you.
Other things mentioned in this book that seemed like really good advice was to agree w/ everything your mate says and put a happy face on it. "yes, i agree divorce is the best thing" "yes i have neglected you, you're right" It takes the wind out of their sail because we haven't been agreeing w/ them and all of a sudden I'm agreeing w/ everything my wife says. It really calms her down and then we can talk. In the mean time, their OM/OW is demanding time and demanding affection while we are not asking for anything. I'm really glad for you Andyv,I'm hoping to follow in your dating footsteps soon!Keep dating!
