Gone Dancin's Dilemma, 2

[Nomopo]

Ok GD. Good job.

I fluxuate between early teens and papa smurf.

Yeah Papa Smurf. I visualized something like that.

I actually have my trial in 3 days

Good luck. I'll be thinking about you!

In my mind, the most important thing you can do right now is find out if there is anything esle you can do to unfile or stop the divorce proceedings you started.

I thought I made this clear to my atty, but I will call tomorrow to make sure there's nothing left for us to do to delay it.

Ok.

In connection with the mediation, I am guessing that process is done. If not, delay any future meetings. If it is done, did you sign some sort of agreement in connection with what was agreed?

It is done, but I haven't actually signed the papers. My atty has them though. I've decided, however, that regardless of W's future with OM or any other man, I'm going to honor the 50/50 split.

Maybe there is a way to honor the 50-50 split, tell your W you're going to do this, but not sign the papers if that would help slow things down. This is not my area, but if the 8/16 date is oike a dismissal date based on a mediated agreement, maybe you can "not finalize" the mediated agreement (by signing) and get some additional time. Just talk it over thoroughly with your L.

I agree that getting other opinions from DBers on this matter would be nice, but I will consider the idea in the meantime.

Sunny, still, others, please let us know what you think on this. I'm gald GD is open to reconciliation post-D, but I sure would like to keep the barn door closed if we can.

though it might cause her to get angry after hearing it, she will understand it in the long run and it will likely only be a temporary wound. I'm just afraid that it will cause her to dig her heels in deeper and really shut the door on reconciliation pre-D. Post-D is another matter though...

Not sure you can predict how she'll react. I'd say her heels seem kinda dug in already, so risking that by a heart to heart on the matter might not be a big gamble. Others please?

Funny thing about this is that she did the same for me one night that she had to bring them by. I'm 99% sure she did it because she realized that I was doing it for her. I thought this was important, and a tiny babystep too.

Agreed.

Keep truckin GD!
Nomopo