Well I have now past the longest length of time since we started dating of absolutely no communication. Starting to worry myself over nothing and I know it, but it is not making me feel any better. I wish she would just call even if just to say go to hell, at least I would hear her voice. Ugh and it is still early.
Okay feel better now, not.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
I do not know if this is DBing but what about a little sympathy or even a little pity? I know it does not seem very romantic or powerful but people have been known to show affection or let down their guard when they have something to sympathize over. Would she feel closer to you or resentful of you if she knew how much you ached to be back together? I know we are not supposed to plead or say I love you, but she sounds very attached to your memories.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
It's worth a thought. Pity's usually just a form of affirmation. The other person grumbles, and we say, "Yes, I totally understand," in the most compassionate voice.
I'm guessing, though, that you just may have to wait, and keep showing her the positive changes you've made. At least she's not talking D. That's a blessing. And her attachment to and possessiveness of your laundry is really kind of sweet. I'm wondering what would happen if another woman stepped in and offered to do your laundry for you: OW Laundress might get her hair torn out.
It's a little baffling, but, all in all, in good time, I think you're likely to get your happy ending.
I do not know if this is DBing but what about a little sympathy or even a little pity? I know it does not seem very romantic or powerful but people have been known to show affection or let down their guard when they have something to sympathize over.
She showed shock, not sympathy when she found out about my past. Actually she asked for the divorce within a month of learning all about it.
Originally Posted By: mkultra
Would she feel closer to you or resentful of you if she knew how much you ached to be back together?
She would be resentful and be pushed further away, she has made a comment about more I have tried the farther away she goes. She does know without a doubt that is what I want.
Originally Posted By: mkultra
I know we are not supposed to plead or say I love you, but she sounds very attached to your memories.
According to her, we have no happy memories together
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
I'm guessing, though, that you just may have to wait, and keep showing her the positive changes you've made. At least she's not talking D. That's a blessing.
Not sure if it a blessing or a curse, it is the waiting that is tearing me up, but I will endure it for myself and my family.
Originally Posted By: delia
And her attachment to and possessiveness of your laundry is really kind of sweet. I'm wondering what would happen if another woman stepped in and offered to do your laundry for you: OW Laundress might get her hair torn out.
Something I do not want to find out. As of now, there is only one women in my life, she just hasn't realized it yet.
Originally Posted By: delia
It's a little baffling, but, all in all, in good time, I think you're likely to get your happy ending.
I really hope so, but I keep telling myself it will end in divorce for the shear fact it keeps my hopes down.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
Part of my problem is I am a fix it type person no matter what is going on. Whether it is a broken water heater, employee problems, doesn't matter, I just try to fix. The problem with that is that I never tried to fix myself. I only started that after seeing a stupid a** name on an application. I know I will be better off because of it, I just want to be better off with my lady standing with me.
The good thing there is when it hit me, within a day I had an appointment to start working on my childhood issues, then drinking ones, see still trying to fix.
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M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
But at least your focus on fixing things is interal now. That's where it needs to be man. I wish I had that drive right now.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
