789 - Thanks again for your help. I have been reading your post on your sitch as well. Have u heard from your w from vacation? My wife left for 5 days on Fri to visit her fam in WA state along with my 1 1/2 daughter. At first I didnt hear from her and I was really trying hard not to txt and ask how our D is doing. Then yesterday I got a txt from her saying that she's sorry she didnt txt that her phone wasnt working that they were having fun. I waited a few hrs then sent a txt saying "thanks 4 the update. Glad you're having fun. Kiss D from daddy 4 me." Havent heard since. Glad she txted me though. Not sure if she really cares anymore. I really dont feel that she is capable of loving me again and opening up her heart to me. Especially after the whole bachelor party strip club thing we went through before. Because of her past she is totally against them and I was stupid and got drunk and ended up at one for my bachelor party 7 yrs ago. I never told her about it until a couple of yrs ago when a friend brought it up. Yeahm thnx bud. Anyway, I will never forget the look on her face when she found out. She was crushed. She felt like our marriage was a sham. She told me that if she found out about it the day before our wedding that she would have called it off. I always had problems with this not having the past that she does. I always felt that she should have trusted me. Well, because I didn't understand were she was coming from she emotionally left that marriage a couple of years ago. Even though we had our d together she shut down. The itimacy hasnt been there. When she found out about this 2 yrs ago she went out to a party and got drunk and supposedly only made out this a guy although I think she slept with him. She only told me about this 4 months ago when she dropped the "I love u but not in love with you" bomb on me. I replied wow I really dont understand why you feel that way and think it would have almost been easier if you cheated on me in order for me to be able to let u go. Well, be careful what u ask for because thats when she told me about this party where she made out with this guy. I'm not sure if she has been having an affair with anyone else or not. The bottom line to our sitch is she never really told me how she felt. She says she's been trying to make this marriage work for years but never said anything to me about trying to fix it. I dont know if she will ever want to work on it. Our C says that I am the best man she will ever have in her life and that some day she will have to face these issues. If not with me then someone else. I dont know how long I can hold out for her. I miss her and love her so much.
We have been separated for 4 mons now and are still living in our house which is for sale. She has her mind set on getting her own condo and starting a new life for herself and her new insurance business. I plan on giving her 6 mons on her own before I make any decisions unless she files first.
Thanks for reading. I wish u all the best in your sitch as well. Any advice?
