No not in Greece...still in the planning stage...it takes time to plan such a big (read "expensive") trip...
I have been training for my new summer job and working my regular job at the same time this week...it is grueling...I will be working full time this summer...a change from summer's past...
Anyway...H is doing pretty well...on meds for depression that I think are helping...not so many ups and downs...he is doing good with his sobriety as well...no problems there...he just really needs to get a job...he is attending job fairs, sending his resume out, applying online and in person...so I figure something has to break soon...it just kills me that his mom and brother both think I should give him an ultimatum for getting a job and to not allow him to mooch on me...well I don't give him money...basically I feed him...occasionally a movie out but that is as much for me as him...actually more me...but the kicker is they have sent him a b/day card with money in it...well it hasn't arrived yet and he is antsie about getting it...now why, if they think he should be pushing himself to get a job and that I am enabling him...why would they send him money now!!!...oh well...I won't put gas in his car and we will see if he offers to pay for anything when he gets it...
I am looking forward to my new job at summer camp...we are going to be going on a field trip every day...I will be very busy and I hope this will facilitate my weight loss a bit more...I am struggling with that and it is making me angry...anyways...as you can see there isn't a whole lot going on...I am thankful for that...H says he loves me on his own but more so after I express my feelings for him...I think he is trying very hard to be more affectionate...he is helping much much more around the house and taking initiative where he would have never done that before...
This has been a long time coming...he has been in MLC for almost 6 years!!!...so I guess it is about time that things settle down now...I feel very confident that we are going to make it now...his relationship with our creator is growing each day and he is taking his spiritual responsibilities seriously now...this makes me extremely happy...and I let him know how proud I am of him for all of his accomlishments...he is still seeing a Psych and a counselor...so hopefully he will heal more and begin to find his own peace...
thanks for your checking in on me...I don't have much time these days to jump around here but I do occassionally check in on the boards and am always happy to see someone posting to me even if it is to go and read their thread...
Good for you, Lin. You sound in a good place, and I'm glad your H has leveled out with his emotions. I like to hear the 'nothing going on' stories, it's nice. Thinking of you.
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Is 43:18-19
If it seems slow in coming, wait. It's on its way. It will come right on time. Hab 2:3
Hi ImLIN, I have been thinking about you a lot. I am happy for you that your H is still on track.
You must be so excited to go to your holiday camp to work.
I was glad I read your post as I saw your H has been in MLC for 6 years! Maybe I still do have some hope, altough I am giving up hope now (see my thread).
Greece is on hold until D can get her friend to decide on a deal...several have come by but her friend seems to drag her feet....so I will patiently wait...I am getting good at this patient stuff!
Thanks for checking in on my you guys...it makes me feel good to know that others are still following along with my recovery...and H's too...
Hi Lin, Patience is a virtue... your D will get some pressure on her friend!
Let me tell you about my patience... Well i've been in a rollercoaster this week. DH best friend visited him abroad and it ended up in a huge fight!! I did not know our friend went overthere and received a spew email just as i was Galling. DH accussed me of sending over the friend to spy on him and critize everything he's doing with OW overthere. I replied that I did not speak with friend since Jan which was the truth. Did not feel like defending myself since it was too ridiculous for words. DH called the next day to apologise. We had a good talk I was very sweet and even apologised for how it used to be...
Then the day after the friend called. He told me that he overheard OW vent for 10 minutes to DH that she was certain that I was behind all of this... Can you imagine??? She apparently put DH up to sending the email. I felt terrible that he did not defend me but I also knew that DH was brought up with a lot of mistrust. OW takes advantage of this. When DH was overhere I told him I spoke with the friend but would not continue to do so as i knew it would make DH uncomfortable. He replied I should do as I please. I continued to say that I have never ever lied to DH and would not start now. He knows the truth about this. Did not say anything about OW.
Anyway, in our house we let an appartment. The people who rent the place told me last week they are moving out in sept. the month DH will return from abroad. DH never talks about these people but suddenly asked how they were doing and I replied they were leaving. After he left he called me a few times abpout the appartment and how we should solve this. the last time he called he asked me how I would feel if he came to live there... He would be living in the same house. I live a floor above. What do you think?
The friend told me DH said that he thought he loved me more than OW. He did not look at the OW in a long term way and would see how things were going when he went back in sept. He also told our friend that he saw my changes but was afraid that things would turn back to the way they were when he would return. I feel this might be a wonderful opportunity to build a friendship again and grow closer and show him things are not going back to the old marriage. It will take time though and OW might still be around... I'm hoping he will go through with this.
Sorry for my huge hijack... Wanted to let you know what's going on and what do you think?
Well let me know when you'll be leaving for Greece and where you're off to!! hug
Personally I think him living in the same house would be great...I know the key to H and I reconnecting was when he moved back to town...
Just make sure you act as if he is any other tenant...don't drop in...don't call....don't invite...don't smother...let him come to you...I think that is what he is trying to do by the looks of things..
