Help! Wife says marriage is beyond repair

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How long have you to been seperated, or are you still living in same house?
First, stop responding to emails the way you did this one, won't help you one bit. Who cares who she is talking to for support, any way you try to find out or stop it will just make her do it that much more.
If you have read the books you not to believe anything you hear and only half of what you see. If you are committed to make it work, back off, give her space, don't accuse of anything, don't bring up the past or talk about current or future of your relationship. Just do your thing, GAL, do all the 180's that you can and fit your situation. Time is on your side, so don't push or that time will slip away.