We are still in the same house, share the same bed and are intimate on times, but no kisses, no cuddles.
I don't know what the DB answer would be, but this seems wrong to me. I don't know who is initiating the intimacy, or how or why, but true intimacy begins with kisses and cuddles. Without that it's just sex.
In my opinion you are helping to keep the affair alive by fulfilling her physical needs when she is away from OM. If you are ok with this, perhaps she should ring him up on headset while you are in bed with her??? Long-distance relationships are difficult, in part because the physical needs are not being met. Don't facilitate.
And don't even think of moving out. Not even out of the bedroom. She's in the wrong here, she is the one who should move.
