How long does Replay last?

[still hoping]

Need some help with letter to H. I've asked him if we can meet sometime (so I could break the news about moving to him in person). His reply was "maybe next week" - which probably means never, as he's been avoiding any discussion for the past 6 months. I realize he communicates better through email and over the phone, so maybe telling him via either of these methods is better. Anyway, I don't really need a reply - my mind is made up and I think it's only fair for me to inform him of my decision and to have him hear it from me rather than someone else. Took a few things from what I've been reading on the BB from oldtimer (what I didn't give in our R) and IMP (moving forward). Thanks for that. Any advice on what I should omit or add, or if whole letter is too sappy or still places blame on him, or if I should forget the letter all together??? Also, should I mention getting D before I leave? (I say that I am finished with this M, but I guess in my heart, I still have 2% of hope left that he will miraculously revert to his old self).


Dear H,

I have finally made the difficult decision to move. I'm sorry that things have ended so badly between us as I had really hoped that we could find a way to work things out, even if it meant not being together as a family. But the lies and all that has happened has made that impossible at this point.

I sincerely hope that you have found in your new relationship what I wasn't giving you in ours. I don't doubt that she's good to you and that your feelings for her are true, but one day, not necessarily from me, the boys will know who, or rather what, you left us for, and that is something that we will all have to live with. I do appreciate that you have limited their contact with her, whatever your reasons for that may be, and trust that you will continue to do so.

For the boys and for myself, I still want the family and life that I have always dreamed of, but it's no longer something that I can do living here. Please know that this has not been an easy decision for me, but it is what I want and what I need to do to move forward from this crisis. As promised, your role as their father will never be denied. But as you have said, if distancing yourself from them is easier for you, I will try to understand and do my best to help them understand the situation as well.

We have a long relationship between us, filled with many happy moments and no matter what has happened, that history cannot be rewritten. I will always have fond memories of us together and will always be thankful to you for giving me the two greatest gifts of my life, S5 and S2. Because of them, you will forever be family to me, no matter where our paths may lead us.

Love,
me