Madonna/Whore Complex - Part 6

[Heywyre]

Thanks for all your comments Lou - I do find them enlightening and I know you didn't mean it "that way" - I was just bugging you. If posting on here can help even one person, then I guess it has been all worth it right?

Like you said, so many of us can be in the same situation but how we deal with it can be totally different

You are not cold hearted, my H does the same thing. He won't meddle in anyones life, even if they ask his opinion. He prefers to remain neutral

Yes, we will need to eventually move to the "adult level" but the ST wants to deal with the childhood fears and pain first. Then, he said, once those issues have been addressed, coping mechanisms have to be put into place to deal with them on an ongoing basis. We can't live in the past for the rest of our lives, we need to heal our past and move forward but until we do, we will be stuck there dealing with the little hurt child.

One of H's favourite sayings is "life is a learning experience" - I guess right now he is getting more than he bargained for