SO, this is an issue I had always had with myself: trying to be strong and perfect and together... afraid to show my "weak" soft side. These 2 years have shown me that I can be perfectly imperfect and enjoy and accept that. From there I can gently create shifts in my life that I want. (without beating myself or any one else up in the process!)
This is something that I've learned over this time as well. You put it very well here. I wish I was better at showing my underbelly--guess I have a lot of time to work on that!
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as smart as I am do you know I never really understood the compassion and flexibility needed for a healthy R... I thought it was all about being a strong woman who does not bend. (Old me: Compromise ?? what's that????? )
This is the exact opposite of me. I caved every time because I was afraid that standing up would make my H think less of me and therefore love me less. Funny how we can both go so wrong on opposite ends of the spectrum. Another lesson learned.
