Love, what is it, is it real, does it matter?

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Thanks TL. I always appreciate your comments. To be honest, I keep hoping you'll bring out the 2x4 and knock some sense into me, on my other threads. On this thread, I really am interested in what Love is, and what it means to others. I have a 2x4 of my own, and use it on myself occasionally. Not as easy, but I guess it still works. Anyway.... love...

Marriage has always been about the children, really. Yes, even for those who for one reason or another can't have them...

Yes, I believe this too. No matter what our modern society and economy and science do or say, kids need parents - and 2 are better then 1.

It's simply another opportunity for to lose ourselves in order to find ourselves

Ah HA!!! Maybe this is it! We are all looking for someone to help us feel whole, help us feel complete, lose ourselves and remember/feel that we are one, and one with God. Losing ourselves, to find ourselves. And apparently this is a hard thing to do. I wonder why it's so hard so much of the time (and yet, when it works, it can feel so easy and natural).

TL, I hope things are happening to you that you wouldn't have been able to believe a few months ago. Are you losing yourself?

I think that if we live by the premise that it's all about being the right person, then we can be guaranteed growth and happiness (not the party fun kind, but the real kind), but we can't be guaranteed the return of our spouse, or love, or anything else that involves the reaction and actions of another. But living by being the right person is the only, and the best, path we can follow (and the best chance at finding love too.)