There might be a reason why H subconsciously picks the women he does, but I have also chosen him for reasons of my own.
Very insightful Heywyre. I think we all do this. Interesting that your H said he thought you were strong enough to handle it. Of course, that could just be his rationalization to alleviate some anxiety/guilt about the whole thing. But it is what it is. "Delving into the psyche" is a very difficult process, one that many people are really not up for. They may "jump through the hoops" and seemingly make progress in C but then they are right back to their usual dysfunction. It takes a VERY motivated person to truly face the reasons behind their actions. And then, not just gain insight, but actually use that insight to change their behaviors. It's one thing to understand why you act the way you do, it's another thing to actually break the pattern of behaviors. I'm sure your ST will be dealing with the whole process (or referring you as he stated). That will be key. Hope things continue to improve. LFL
