Thanks, Hill. I'm much better off here than if I stayed at home waiting for the sand to run out of the hourglass on our "1 year separation". I have always wanted to be here, right in the middle of this whole thing. I can say I made history, not just read about it in a book. It will give me a tremendous tranquility on so many levels.
Politicians will lose this thing, just like in Vietnam (NOT the warriors!) because they don't have the stomach to fight wars the way we used to.
It is easier here than getting my nose rubbed in it daily. It's really hers to throw away. I refuse to have my kids have a hole in there hearts that will never heal because I decided to leave. That won't happen. She will have to do it all if she wants it. That is, however, over a year away.
Time for both of us to reflect. There are some days that I don't know if I've detached or have just given up. I am open to reconciliation, so it may be detachment. I don't call her, email her or make contactin any way. If she happens to answer when I call for the kids, I talk for about 30 seconds with her and immediately ask for S or D.
I have a three day pass before we go to Iraq. I'm going to Myrtle Beach with another single officer for 3 days. I can't say goodbye to my kids again. I wasn't right for about 3 or 4 days after I saw them last.
I even call D on her cell instead. I do, however have to have a strategy so I don't go dark forever, and comee home to someone I have not corresponded with in over 2 years.
Thoughts? By the way: Where has COG been? He used to respond to me almost hourly!!!!!1
Sounds like a good stragety. I agree about not getting your nose rubbed into it. It took a stronger person than me after the constant beatin from work and my X for years pretty much sucked all the confidence out.
My biggest challenge is to get something to be passionate about. You will do well in the sandbox.
"All I want is a weeks pay for a day's work" Steve Martin
Just thought I'd send a cyber hug your way. I am sure it's not easy having a strained relationship and being so far away on Father's Day. Hope you are ok!
Hi FLTC, I just wanted to say that you did the good thing to send your D16 to a private school. Public school at 16 is a difficult time already. It sounds like you have made a lot of rational and good decisions. Just wanted to add that my parents separated when I was 16, I am also a "military brat" so we were use to Dad being away on duty. We are still very close but back then I was really just into my friends. I was like, "OK see ya later Dad!" I was mad at my mom, too, but I got over it and thankfully they are really good friends now. Unfortunatley, even in my 30's I wish for my parents to get back together. Kids always want that, but now that they are doting grandparents, can't they be together? Keep up your correspondance. It sounds important. Your W sounds like she is making bad choices due to stress.
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Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
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