Good 180, right? I know H tried and probably succeeded in looking for EVERYTHING, even the smallest things, to find fault in me. One time things were supposedly ok again (we went back & forth numerous times before he finally decided to stay and didn't change his mind again) but I had heated up some chicken and fed the 2 little ones and hadn't gotten the kitchen cleaned up yet and he got all mad b/c he said I wasted about $5 worth of chicken b/c I didn't put it back in the fridge in time. What??!! Anyway, they'll look for anything to justify their thinking, I think. Just hang in there.
I know you are having a hard time w/ the detaching thing. Why don't you stop thinking about it as detaching and try to just start focusing on you and what you can do for yourself right now to make yourself happier as a person rather than focusing so much on the sitch and your wife. I know, I know, easier said than done, but that's what it's all about. You need to get to a point where you are happy w/ you and not basing your happiness on your W or your M. That's when she's going to wake up & smell the coffee!
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
