Hey Bit, I read your email and caught up on your thread. Sorry it took so long, just got back from Scotland lat night.
Look, I want to share with you one thing. If you read back through my sitch you will see that my Wife and I had a similar experience. She showed that she wanted to try and we headed down that road. Now where we went wrong is that I pushed to hard. It does take an extreme amount of patience to do this my friend.
You have gotten the answer that you were looking for, she does want to try and is not ready to give up, isn't that what is really important here? So now it's about making it easier for her. You must be her "friend" for now and show her that you want to reestablish that friendship first.
My suggestion, sit down with her and talk about friendship. Let her know that your marriage is important enough to you that you want to reconnect on that level first and see where it goes from there.
Jazz is right, she is in the drivers seat and you need to tell her that. You need to let her know that she is driving, that she must make the efforts to be your friend and that friendship works both ways. Allow her to set the pace while still showing that you are fine without her.
Don't sweat the big stuff buddy, look at the small markers that matter. Just the fact that she showed you she does not want your marriage to end yet should give you some of that needed strength to continue on.
