H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
I figured that out. But that is great news for him and his family, a starting spot. I am so glad to see someone here have a chance to start C especially since they had not even been talking.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
I'm alive, things are good. Just needed a little breather from everything.
Work is going well. Been vounteering at church, that's been super fun. S4 is doing pretty good - he gets sad sometimes and wants me to go home with him, but he's doing well 99% of the time. Wife is going to counseling with me, no D agenda that I know of, the Counselor called her, which made me kind of surprised she agreed to go. Having a big family party this weekend, W said S4 could come spend some extra time with us Sunday and Monday, so that was really nice of her. And, I got checked out by the SIL yesterday, very curious indeed
That's about it in a nutshell, I'm out shooting hoops if anyone needs me
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
Hey dude, I just emailed you wondering how things are going. Sounds like some very nice forward movement for y'all which is great news. Guess this is a good example of how time and space can be a real positive.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
well, the counseling session went poorly. It is very obvious she's done. Nothing went well, she wsa very guarded and distant, there was no W the way I know her. She's just TOO hurt by my not valuing her and taking her opinion seriously, and listening to her, that she can't get over it. It's understandable.
It's OK. She thinks if she gets back together with me, "I win" and she thinks if she divorces me, "She wins." So, I'm going to let her win! I've always wanted her to win, but I sincerely thought that we could win together as a family. I believe divorce is going to be a lose/lose. However, she sees it as a win, so I'll give her the win!
I'll be back to let you know how things go in court Aug 6th, maybe I can help someone else in the same situation avoid the pain I'm going through, just a little bit.
I'm really worried about my son. How do you explain this to a 4-year old?
thanks guys, many of you have been big helps to me, I appreciate it!
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
Right it was only one session and the first one at that. Expecting it to go well and expecting it to create positive sparks is an unreasonable expectation. Give it time my man, give it time.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
