Ok, my H only 'left' a couple of times. Once for a few days and then once for a weekend, but other than that, he was always in the house w/ the boys & I during the D sitch. It's hard, I think sometimes a separation makes them see what they're missing, but on the other hand, it may allow them to see that they do want to be out on their own, so I don't have a real firm opinion on that one way or the other.

I just kind of went about my business. I know how much it sucks coming home every day after working & never knowing really what to expect from the other person.

Yeah, I would just casually ask her if she wants you to wash her car. Not make a big deal out of it. Or you could just go out & do it and not say anything. If you always do it anyway, there's no reason not to anymore, right?

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10