GK,
See--it can work. I was stunned at H's response too--and he had been very condescending and MEAN. He's still difficult but not like before.

I do think that boundaries make you more attractive.

I'd say a little more in your email. Tell her you're having a great time!!

M: 16 years
Bomb 4/07
OW 20s long gone
Divorced 11/09
I remarried New Guy
Cooperative r w/X regarding D