thanks, sunny! I agree that the sooner the better on replies for the stressed on LBS!
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I don't care that she's set up house w/him, doesn't matter. Whenever you attach to someone for security reasons it doesn't portend a strong & lenghty R to me.
I honestly don't think this is why, but I can't say it isn't either. It is simply the best way of looking at it. I've calmed down a little since I last posted, but my head is still swimming over how to deal with it. The collected DBer in my head says, "Just let it go. She is going to make her bed -- let her sleep in it." It also tells me that somewhere down the road when she has time to heal from OR and doesn't feel threatened anymore, she will see all of the changes I've made and stuck with, and also realize that I did a lot for her when I didn't have to. In the end, it will all shine through, and whether or not we are together, I can be proud that I did all I could for her, me, the kids, and OR -- and she won't be able to deny that either.
