BamBam, I know there has to be real dialogue between you and your H to discover the real root causes of your problems. It's probably boredom, you got into a rut, so did H. When you get bored and your love language isn't being spoken, the emotional tank runs out. It doesn't sound like either of you were emotionally there for the other over the last few years of your marriage. That happens to SO many people.
I think you really have to get with a solutions-based counselor and TALK HONESTLY, and LISTEN to each other and try to look at things from the other's point of view. Until that occurs and you can each be truly empathetic to each other, it's going to be a hard row to hoe.
Maybe time does heal all wounds, but the inability to communicate between H and W will open them right back up again...
Good luck!!!
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
