Amy, I appreciate the post in response to mine. I used a poor word in "plan." I didn't mean to insinuate that you had a master scheme to get H back. I simply meant you are waiting and working and doing all in your power while exercising your faith that things will work out. I didn't say that specifically, because I thought plan would work, I was wrong - sorry.
I think your e-mail to H about S14 is completely appropriate. I also think it's a symptom of being separated, agree with me or not, but having to deal with things over e-mail is so ineffective it's ridiculous. You can't see body language, you can't immediately smooth a bad interpretation, you can't DISCUSS, you can't share true feelings. He may look at that and think you're being totally unreasonable. you weren't, but how does he know? He won't til you are talking face to face.
Patience is important, but honestly, how effective can you be as parents and as a couple in working through issues if you're not together? I don't know, I realize you've been at this for a long time, and there is NO doubt in my mind the level of importance you place on your Marriage. However, how does H REALLY know it, if you're not there regularly to show it??? you show it one day, you're gone the next and he forgets a little. He forgets a little more every day you're not there, don't you think? Doesn't it feel like 1 step forward 3-4 steps back at times? I'd never suggest giving up, never EVER! But there has to be something more a couple can do. When you figure it out, I'm sure you'll share with us
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
