Further west and North from IF, but we're still relatively close (about 4 hrs).
Yeah, for awhile there I was a sad drunken idiot. Haven't been that way for quite a spell, but whenever I do drink it tends to not be pretty. Best just to stay away from it entirely.
Well, today things just turned a little bit upside down for me.
S5 just mentioned to me that he and D3 stayed at OM's house with W the whole time I was in Hawaii. I couldn't help it, and asked if he had stayed at W's apt at all. He said no, and that mommy is living at OM's house now, and that she has to move her stuff in with him. My heart just sank. It is kind of funny because MIL had asked W back in late March/early April (when W and OM began dating -- supposedly) if she was going to move in with OM and W said something like, "I'm not willing to give up my independence now that I've got it." My, my, how a few months changes things.
I shouldn't be dwelling on it, but I wonder if it has something to do with the fact that W's lease will be up in August sometime, and she is trying to avoid being strapped for cash until our house sells and she gets her cut. That would be the most optimistic way of looking at it. However, I'm sure that she just thinks this is love and why waste any time. I wouldn't be surprised if they already made wedding plans. I think I'm gonna throw up.
I'm trying to stick to the 48 hr rule, but thoughts are racing. In our mediation appt in May, W said that she wanted 50% of the house so she could buy a house of her own without having any payments attached to it and so her and the kids would be stable. Now I feel like she is going to use it in her new R with OM so THEY can live comfortably. I feel like calmly asking her to have another mediation appt or to meet with me without the kids around so we can talk. I want to bring these concerns up, but know that it will likely stir the pot and push her away more. However, how much further away can she get?! I feel like I'm getting completely hustled here.
I know that I can't control her and her choices, but I can control my choice to give her 50% of the money from the house (those familiar with my story know why). I feel like putting in some stipulations like 1) money cannot be used to purchase house with anyone's name but W's on it, or 2) money can only be used to purchase house under W's name alone. Does this sound unreasonable, controlling, etc? Should I just say oh well, she can do with it what she wants, and let her and OM live comfortably together at my expense?
Aarrgh! I'm so flustered and frustrated right now. Please, someone give me an outside view of how I should handle this new knowledge of W's potential intentions to move in with OM.
