For one, he isn't ready and two, there's no room for me and S14 in that house anymore.
See, that's what I don't get. An individual DECIDES to be ready, what is the point of waiting indefinitely? Look at it this way, you can start today and say 6 months down the line you're working on things, things are getting good, there is real progress and you're together. Or, you can wait 6 months to start and be apart - what's the point? It's still just 6 months of your life and you can be ahead of the game or just starting. There is no additional benefit to waiting to start - wouldn't you think?
The dance gets to be unproductive at some point, and when there is obvious positive movement in a relationship, what's the point of prolonging the agony? Waiting to see something in you that things will be good forever? Do that TOGETHER!
Where is the logic in staying separated? And I'll tell you what, if I were him and I saw the effort you've put in and if I still loved you, which he says he does, I'd move you back in and space be damned. I'd get bunk beds for the kids and we can pile clothes in the laundry room, or whatever!
Anyway, I know you have a plan and I know you're working it. It's just frustrating to me to see people who love each other prolong a process that has become unnecessary.
Anyway, Good luck Amy, you deserve your happiness!!! Have a great Sunday.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
