I have to agree with you, I don't think the reason they are miserable can totally be attributed to us. They think the world will be such fun then reality sets in. The things we "nagged" about are still there.
Did I tell you mine missed a haircut? Screwed up the appt! I took some pride in that. I didn't remind him as I had nothing to do with the appt. The girl wasn't happy with him when she called. And she isn't even married to him!!!!!
Yesterday was the first day he didn't bring anything up at all! It was a nice day. He and S11 are going to see a ballgame today-I won tickets at work. They have never been to one before. Just a local team. I am busy redoing my whole house. Or at least I have dreams of such, especially now. I need change or there is no way I can look at these walls alone.
Me 43 H 44 S-13 D-9 Separated 90 days 6/28/05 H Says he is done-10/2/06-day after 18th anniv Moved out 10/2/07-to father's house-day after 19th wedding anniv-GF now H Filed for D 7/08