Right now its not great to know but your W is no longer your best friend. As hard as it will be you will need to look to yourself and your kids for happyness. You will get to a better place trust me but the journey is tough. You have to take the journey though there is no shortcut. When you get there you will know. For now follow the good advice in the books , work on what you need to do , there will be little payback but thats the way it is.