Upon reflection, that last comment wasn't as tangental as I would have liked. Tip had already been given, I just found a new way of phrasing my trouble with the whole self-pity thing (More Of The Same, anyone?)
I've replaced that movie line in my head with an old favorite from "The Terminator": "Look at it this way: In a hundred years, who's going to care?"
Quick update: Fantastic day with the boy. Had a ton of fun, had no less than 6 unsolicited compliments on him/us from total strangers, lots of laughter, showed virtually none of the pain I still grapple with from time to time. Rousing success all around. Great kid. Virtually no contact with W except her morning check in and the good night call. Nothing but minimal pleasantries between us, though she did hear that I finally changed the incoming message on the home answering machine (basically word for word what it was before, but in my voice instead of her's).
Have set DR aside for now to read "How Can I Forgive You?". The topic has been much on my mind, and this book seems to hold promise to give me the nuts and bolts info that I need to decide how best to proceed for myself. Anybody read it?
