So this evening, after H's day with the guys, I see his phone just sitting there...I knew I shouldn't, but I checked it and there was a text from OW1: I got a speeding ticket today.
I asked H about it...he laughed it off and said, "no big deal, I talk to her every once in awhile...she's getting a new job and getting married...you're so funny when you snoop."
I know he's in our marriage now. I know he's not seeing her--she lives 900 miles from here. But I've tried several times to communicate to him that cutting off contact is a non-negotiable for me. The text itself wasn't super bothersome to me, but the fact that she'd text HIM instead of her fiance is wierd. And I can't get over the fact that he acts like it's no big deal. Like I'm supposed to be all okay about him talking to a fairly recent lover.
I'm fine--this is nothing new to me, but I think I need to address it differently, because to me, it's at minimum an open door to further betrayal. And it scares me when compounded with his outward lack of repentant behavior in regards to our faith.
