FA, Yep. It's a process. Wish I coulda just heard what I need to do & hopped on over from Step 1 to NOW. Would have saved a whole lot of, well, stuff, but all the in-between steps are really important in their own right, too, and needed to be experienced, learned from, and passed thru.
GD - Not that you're "there" yet - but that kind of explains the (what you asked about earlier) "non-dating" thing. At this stage - even w/ or ESP w/this type of GALing - I am STILL standing for my M -- and standing for my M does NOT include "dating". Like I told young-dude last night when, even after we got the S'd-but-still-M'd thing clear, he continued to push for my # (complete w/his 'reasonable' reasons): I. . .am. . .Still. . .M'd. Legally & morally; and, aside from those reasons, it would not be in any way good for my children for me to Date.
So, a "non-date" is getting benefits to your ego/PMA/worth . . . while retaining respect for yourself & your M & whatever that means to you. I can get those type of things from a crowd of strangers -- dancing is not illegal, immoral or detrimental to my children (and I stay clear of dancing 'like that' and/or w/less than respectful guys. . . I stay clear of singling anyone out or giving the wrong attention . . .There's a fine line, but it's do-able. It can also be done (tho much trickier IMO - a very slippery slope as C_K says) w/an individual person of the opp.sex. When I'm vulnerable (uh, for the past x months pretty much) is when I don't allow even the possibility of that position, but w/boundaries & honesty it can be done, too. So - "non-dating".
Kids just called an hr ago from the very same mall I was at all afternoon - and you gotta understand there are prolly 6 malls w/i an hr's drive from me! How weird would it have been to bump into each other there?! lol
Sunny, cye! Want a visitor?
And, Nomo - Yeah, I guess the Proper Authorities were notified --since they were some of the ones chatting us up!! (And nice to know: Friend A's brother turns out to the The Man who when - I mean IF - you're arrested gets to decide to let you go w/a warning or not.
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Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.
Me: 45 - WAH: 36 S8; D6 M: 11 yrs 07/06 Initial Bomb 10/06; D Bomb 11/06 - DBing begun 1/5/07 - H moved out 03/16/07 To date: No papers filed; H not seen a L; trying to convince me to MUTUALLY file for D
(And nice to know: Friend A's brother turns out to the The Man who when - I mean IF - you're arrested gets to decide to let you go w/a warning or not. 
