I am a woman who had cybersex. My H found out then I discovered my D knew and maybe even my grandson. I pray not, but it doesn't remain a secret, I discovered that. No matter how hard you try to keep it covered up, it seems to be found. There are ways that people can get into your stuff on the computer. Anyway, I am in the same boat and I am having a hard time. Although, this was a "first" for me and I am ashamed, I still am struggling with the fallout. I am struggling with feelings that developed for one particular man. Anyway, it is all such a mess now. I hope everything will work out for you and W. But, I know it will take a long time to regain trust. My H is a great man but was not fullfilling my emotional needs or physical or sexual. Anyway, I could blame him for me turning to the computer, but I have to take responsibility....like you have. I hope it all works out for you. You are not alone, but not many will admit they have had cybersex...especially women. Good luck.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
