Bravo, my friend! You are a DBing natural!!! Sounds like you have planted the seeds of doubt in her mind already! The only thing I would strongly caution against is giving her the nicorette gum. According to His Needs, Her Needs, such a "gift" would likely seem insulting to her (especially right now). Women like to receive gifts that are sentimental in nature, not practical. Men enjoy practical things, which is why they tend to give the same kind of gift to their W. Think about what giving gum as a gift will tell her. Possibly, "Wow, he shows his appreciation for me by hinting that I need to stop smoking. How romantic!" She will see this as controlling and not sincere. If she wants to smoke, let her -- it is her choice and I strongly believe any attempt to push her otherwise will push her away.
Everything else you've done, are doing, and will be doing is right on! Keep it up! What do you think the head shake was about?
