One more thing that I forgot to mention was yesterday my W was saying that she still has all of the e-mails that I sent to a classmate in grad school from the fall of 2006. That is the reason that we separated. She said that she even has her telephone number. My W was all insecure that I had a friendship with this girl. THe girl even told my W that there is nothing between us, we shared notes, etc. Nothing! Yet, my W kicked me out of the house. We were living on her parent's property and I was working part-time and going to school full-time and my W insisted that I leave. Her mom told me there is nothing that she can do. So now, the tables are turned. I left this time on my own for two weeks and tried to come back. All I keep hearing is that, You left us. You abandoned us. Oh yeah, what about the fall of 2006 when you kicked me out when I wanted to stay? She must have forgot that!
This whole thing is a BIG MESS! We go through counseling, Retrouvaille and she is telling me that she forgives me and wants to have a happy future and to never mention a separation or a D. When we lived together, this is one of the things that always pissed me off, she was always bringing up the past when I did something stupid. I asked for us to start all over when we got back together and she was willing...NOT! Her problem is that she lives in the past and holds 11 years of history over my head when I did something to upset her. I am just venting.
OneWish's Story
"We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them."
