Get the tattoo done husband. I went and had my belly button pierced a couple of years ago just for me. My youngest daughter thinks it is just soooo cool and it forces me to try and keep in shape!!
Delia, don't rule me out coming to see you to. I would love to come and spend some time with you in Lake Texoma.
you have no idea how you all keep me going. I have had a really rough day. Its a bit of a long story but here goes... and I hope it makes sense.....
Christmas 2006 We went and stayed at my H's sisters house for a couple of days. My H's mother had just been widowed the month before when my H's step father had died and so things weren't too merry.
Anyway, while we were there my H's sisters H tried hitting on me a few times. I told my H but as he was already involved in his A, (which I didn't know about at the time), he didn't pay much attention. My SIL lives in an old house with lots of nooks and crannies and little passages and in the end I had to tell my two eldest daughters what was going on in order to get them to stay with me so that nothing further could happen, as the guy kept waiting to get me in different places around the house.
After surviving Christmas, this guy then kept phoning me up and asking if he could come and see me. He is someone who is very proud and macho and would not take a nock back very easily. He obviously didn't take a hint very easily either, and so instead of being in his face and telling him to just F@$K OFF I just tried to ignore his overtures or laugh then off. When he asked if he could come and see me I would just reply that it would be nice to see ALL of his family. (His wife is beautiful and he has two small sons via IVF. I had been very supportive to his wife when she was going through IVF as I used to be an antenatal teacher).
Anyway, when all the stuff came out about my H's A this guy kept phoning me up and asking to come and see me. He was like a vulture circling. I didn't have the energy to deal with him anymore and so my H and I just avoided going anywhere near his sister or her H. WE didn't want to go public about what my H's sisters H was upto as we thought it would just end up hurting my SIL.
One day my MIL phoned up and had a real go at me because I wouldn't go to family does where my SIL and her husband were going to be and so in the end my H told his mother why but swore her to secrecy. Then six weeks ago we found out that my SIL's husband told my MIL that I had been trying it on with him!!!!! How she could possibly think that was true after seeing how devastated I was after finding out about my H's A I just don't know. All my energies over the last year have gone into trying to mend my marriage. The number of times it would have been nice to throw the fact that I was upto something else with another man in my husbands face just to see how much it hurt him would have been great - but unfortunately I have never looked at anyone else. So to be accused of this hurt doubly.
Anyway, my MIL decided to bring everything out into the open because she "wanted to find out the truth". Well as my H and I told her, the other guy wasn't going to hold up his hands and say he lied was he? Once a scum bag always a scum bag it seems. Sure enough he stuck to his lies and now my H will not talk to his sister and I will no longer have anything to do with his family. As if life isn't enough of a mess as it is!!!
I really want to phone up my MIL and say 'I told you so' but I guess that wouldn't achieve anything in the long run. Any ideas anyone?
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
