I have asked for what I wanted. Pretty much in the exact order you stated. Since we are both in the same house, I asked if we could work on the M. She said no. We were seeing a counselor. She no longer wants to go.
At the present moment she is not thinking about working on the M. She is intent of separation. She has started moving her stuff upstairs. She asked about how we should set visitation once she moves out. I don't know. I figure as long as she can't move out yet, I can work on this. My goal is to not get defeated by what she says and just my goal going. It gets hard. She says some things that are hurtful, but I try to let it go.
I did the research on Retrouvaille. They have a session close enough to drive to next month. I don't believe she will want to go. She says she is finished with the marriage. She will not continue to work on it. So it would seem counterproductive if i am to not pressure her into anything marriage wise, and then I ask to go away for the weekend to get help for the marriage.
I am just going to try to be nice right now. No M talk. No future talk. No instigating. No nothing. Just let her be right now. Care when she is around, don't care when she is not.
