She is asking about a legal separation. What sense does that make with her only making $80 a week? I asked her if she thought we should wait until she had a regular job so we could split up the finances evenly. She said she didn't know and that she was waiting to talk to someone and get the information.
That is the problem. She is not thinking. Stop arguing with her. Would you rather have a legal separation or a D? You sound a lot like I was until recently, letting my W have ALL of the control and asking her what to do. It is time for you to start to think about what you want and make statements to her about what you want. Then negotiate. Stop asking her if we should do this or that. She loses respect for you. A man doesn't ask his wife what should he do. I am guilt of this myself. Now that I am telling my W what I want, she is open to talking about it and it seems to be working. I feel more in control of my life and less wussy.
You have to start asking for what you want. Ask first for something big, if she says, no ask for something small. You can ask her 1st if you can live together and work on your marriage. If she says no, then ask her if she will commit to a weekend at [url=www.retrouvaille.org]Retrouvaille[/url]. If she says no, then ask if she would be willing to see a counselor for a few sessions to help sort out both of your emotions so that you can both make a sound decision. Tell her that you will pay and also tell her that you both have nothing to lose. Ask her to think about it for a week with her heart and head and then get back to you. You need to start trying different thing to get new results.
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"We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them."
